Stop dwelling on what’s done

Photo of the day: the dry and prickly landscape of the desert

I randomly opened the app on my phone today. I was curious about some land listings in Colorado. The impulse to do so had no real point to it. I was procrastinating doing more meaningful things like getting outside for some exercise. But you know how it is, we get an urge to look something up, know that the information is only a couple of taps away and can’t help but want to scratch the itch.

The app opened to the last place I had searched for real estate listings. Greenleaf, Idaho, where we sold our home last June. I couldn’t resist tapping my finger on a listing that was right around the corner from our house. I nearly gasped when I saw the listing price AND that it was under contract. My head started spinning. We could have gotten so much more money for our house, was the thought that penetrated my brain.

I’ve done this probably four times since selling our house 9 months ago…and I really need to stop. Every time I get this pit in my stomach, as if we failed. Which is so far from the truth.

We made good money on our house. It sold quickly and easily. We didn’t have to put out the 15k or more for the furnace and A/C that were in need of being replaced. We didn’t have to stay in Idaho any longer than we wanted to be there. We got to go home to Colorado almost as quickly as we had decided to do so, and, enjoy the time of year that we love the most.

None of these things were likely to happen had we gone for top dollar. Actually, that’s hardly an accurate statement. At the time, we were asking top dollar. We got two real estate assessments before putting our house on the market and ended up asking more than what was recommended. The way the market has blown up in the last year is something we never could have predicted.

All that to say, what’s done is done. Whether we made a bad decision or not (and I don’t believe we did) doesn’t matter. We can’t go back and re-sell our house. Dwelling on what’s done is a complete and utter waste of energy. And…it’s not fair to assume that you could go back and change one thing in your life and know where that would put you right now. One different decision has the power to change an entire chain of events. We are happier and more content than we’ve ever been, and all our decisions have gotten us to this point. So while we possibly could have made more money on our house, I wouldn’t go back and change it even if I could. I would never want to risk what we have right now. Not to mention, Mark & I both believe that life shouldn’t revolve entirely around money.

It only took me seconds to realize where my brain was taking me when I saw that listing. I quickly closed the app and put my phone down. Dwelling is no way to spend our time. If you’re not happy with a decision you made, and if the outcome absolutely cannot be changed, let it go. Put your energy in to the decisions you make today. Learn from what you wish you could change and apply those lessons to your life going forward.

What’s done is done. Let today be an opportunity to practice being at peace with where you are right now.


By Michele


Hi, I'm Michele, a nomadic wedding photographer and lover of the great outdoors. I live on the road full-time and document my adventures daily. This is my personal blog where I share and record my thoughts on living simply and intentionally with less stress and more joy. Check out my wedding and portrait photography at


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